I’m going to be honest, I had the worst five alarm hormonal fire mind battle today, I heard sirens in the distance.
It was a roller coaster of crappy food cravings, no energy or focus to workout, random bouts of tears, and short of breath moments. We women particularly struggle with this mind battle & let it halt our progress when we’re trying to take care of ourselves or our own health & body goals. For me today, my “I can’t” mental battle was about the “overwhelm” of all there is to do in growing a business to serve others, but this is exactly what gets us all off track on our health & body goals too!
The truth is, no human brain is completely immune to its amazing ability to zero in on the negative. Its pre-programmed for negativity excellence.
I was blessed to have parents who drilled the “you CAN” into my mind & repeatedly gave my opportunities to get out of my comfort zone so I flexed that habit a lot over my lifetime somewhat uncommonly as a child, but I still struggle some days.
Starting a business is without a doubt the hardest thing we’ve ever taken on in our lives. It’s one of those things… like childbirth.
Everyone avoids talking about the intensity or sacrifice or incredible investment of yourself or pain you’ll go through in the “birthing” process, because they know if you know, you may never have the courage to do it.
The same mental process happens when we decide to reach a long-term goal with our health & body with daily commitment over long periods of time. Our minds often get us off track!
Our conscious plays this vicious game with us when it comes to our bodies, or any goal we decide to consider that is going to take a CRAZY BOATLOAD of energy, patience, consistent effort daily, learning, and our courage and faith, over a long period of time.
This is how I feel most days starting a business to help others… learning things I’ve never had to know or do because it’s so important to us to help others get in a great relationship with their bodies… and this is EXACTLY what I imagine you feel like some days too working on your healing or weight loss goals, or even if you’re an athlete investing endless day for a longterm competitive goal.
It feels a bit like walking through a jungle in the dark, chopping vigorously with a machete at the brush to force our way through, having no idea what we’re doing, learning as we go, stumbling & falling, feeling alone, wanting desperately for someone to pick up us and throw us over their back and carry us the rest of the way, these are not easy places to venture. I think that about sums it up, right? Welcome to the visual of body transformation & business ownership! LOL
And it’s without a doubt going to happen that when we feel weak, when we’re tired, when we just don’t think we can go on anymore, the mind sees it’s prey & jumps in to bear down on us at just the right time.
Its this incredible wrestling match with our conscious, that sucks all our energy & positivity!
It’s a right hook with the “I can’t”, a left with the “the mountain top looks so high, I’ll never get there”, & and knockout upper cut with the “look around you you’re so far behind than everyone else, why waste your time it’s impossible, you’ve never done this before anyway what makes you think you have it in you to do it now, huh?”.
The #1 thing to do when this happens is just THAT — recognize that it’s happening!
Too often we fail to step back and see this taking place, and we let it paralyze us in energy sucking fear & doubt.
Recognize that YOU are fully in control of you brain and what you allow in it, where you allow it go, …and when it misbehaves or acts up like a bad-behaving child, give it a kiddy corner time out for 10 mins, SIMMER DOWN negative mind! I run the show here.
Whatever it takes — refocus your mind for just that space of time, walk away from what you’re doing, go outside and get some air, look at the sun, see the beauty in your environment, play with your dogs & feel laughter for a minute, meditate, pray, or find some positive affirmations & repeat them to yourself quietly over & over. Whatever it takes, just break the cycle!
#2… move into gratitude mode!
Pick just 3 things right now in this moment that you have to be grateful for, doesn’t matter. EVERYONE has 3 things to be grateful for at least, and if you can’t figure them out, then that’s another article.
The next move is a keeper…#3 get a 2nd opinion.
We’re all HUMAN — none of us are built to take on new & big goals alone, we need support, we need sounding boards, mentors, there are days we need encouragement, and even mental head kicks!
When you’re struggling getting your mind back on the positive track, reach out to a friend, a family member, a co-worker…just share with them openly your worries, fears, concerns, whatever your mind battle. Ask them to listen openly, and then offer their own perception of what you’re sharing. Often you’ll find, hearing how someone else sees you & your progress in an entirely different way than your negative mind perceives it & tries to filter for you. In fact, you’ll often hear how the efforts you’ve been putting forth for your goals are inspiring others around you in ways you never even knew.
Better yet, get your second opinions team in place before your journey, ready for the pre-emptive strikes when you need ‘em, because YOU WILL.
#4 — try a positive psychology coaching mindset technique: “decisional balance”. Ask yourself, what are the worst possible outcomes & then the best possible outcomes if I give up on trying & I stay where I am today & do nothing more? Now ask yourself, what are the worst possible outcomes & the best possible outcomes if I KEEP GOING? Write them down in a list & read them aloud to yourself. How do you feel now? Helps put it in perspective.
#5 — don’t under-estimate the physical!! The quality & schedule of your sleep cycles & your food input tremendously effect your brain hormonal balance. If you start messing with them, or put garbage in the machine, you will disrupt brain hormonal chemistry that controls emotions. Get back on track by making a solid deposit in the body bank of good, scheduled, undisturbed rest & quality nutrient-dense foods to hit your emotional refresh button from the TOP down — go for the CONTROL CENTER aka noggin.
Last but not least, #6, look backwards at how far you’ve come. If you’ve been working for a bit of time at your goal, write a list of all the things you’ve already learned that you didn’t know before you started, and positive changes you have already made.
Would you have experienced those if you gave into negativity or fear in the past? UM, NO!
So remove your mind from the pity train of fear & negativity, flip the switch on how you see it, and now the big hairy scary monster of a goal too big to achieve, really isn’t that big at all. Choose to build on that momentum.
Don’t let that negative self-talk strangle your inner power & keep your progress at bay, or get you off track!
All it takes is a little mental regrouping to get back on the positive mental train, so DON’T GIVE UP!!
If you have questions or just want to share your thoughts or additional suggestions to winning the mind battle that have worked for you when working at a health or body goal over a long period of time that may help others, please post your comments below.
Heather B. Dubé | Functional Nutritionist; Metabolic Practitioner; Founder, You & Improved Coaching, LLC
BA, CHHC, ACSM CWC, NASM CPT, On Fitness & Livestrong.com Writer, National Figure Competitor
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